Friday, August 30, 2013

Carrot? Egg? or Coffee?

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.
Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, “Tell me what do you see?”
“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.
She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft.She then asked her to take an egg and break it.
After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.
Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked. “What’s the point,grandmother?”
Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity–boiling water–but each reacted differently.
The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.
“Which are you?” she asked her granddaughter.
“When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?”
~~~~~Think of this: Which am I?
Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff?
Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.
When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?

Sunday, August 4, 2013

I'm just me

I'm just me. Not anyone else. 

I'm just truthful to myself. I am therefore I am. That uplifting smile I've given are the sweetest moment that brings my spirit up. And when I blast a big laugh, nothing else matters more than that enjoyable humor. But if frown is shown, I am just as sorrow, knowing every pain within. I don't smile only because it will look good; I don't laugh if it is lame; and I don't pull myself down unnecessarily. I am happy or sad, because I am. Not to please anyone. 

I'm just honest to myself. I don't know how to act and react with a purpose. I don't suddenly turn into an obedient creature to make myself look good. I don't change my preference in an instant to blend with the crowd. I don't pretend, because to pretend is to lie. It is easy to pretend or lie. I choose something more challenging; I choose to be honest, because I am. Not to please anyone. 

If you think I should be otherwise, I know I'm not the one. It should just be anyone else. It could be that person, but not me. So go ahead and get that anyone else. I can't give something that I just haven't got....I can't please everyone. 

Anyone is just everyone needs. Ironic. 

Saturday, August 3, 2013

disconnected connections

Hey, anyone heard of or remembered the story about a little kid trying to 'buy' her father's time? Ya, it goes something about a girl longing to see her busy father attending her school's concert. Like said, the father is always busy for work, for money. The girl understood the father's responsibilities, but so much wanted just 2 hours of his time attending her performance. And so she paid her father few hundred bucks and made him coming to the concert instead of at work. 

Ending / Moral of the story? Go and ask google. If I continue the story telling, people may be bored to a saddening death. 

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And so, I am very very happy today. It is a good good feeling when precious time is spent with your loved one. There are just some moment when you need to disconnect, in order to be connected again. 

How I loved the trip to Titi Jelebu (where Dad was singing like no one's business) and so did the data lines, phone lines, whatever lines are finally resting in peace. That was the place and time when we really talked. Nonsense or otherwise, not applicable. That was when we really belonged to each other. That was happiness and togetherness.  

Yes, we often forget reality when happiness is in concern. We need to work because we need monies. Minions too need to work for bananas *huh?!? 

Okay, I mean quality time. Not quantifying  it by day or month or year. See, that little girl just needed 2 hours. And after the father really did spent 2 hours with her.....the world didn't stop, the family didn't die of hunger, he didn't go bankrupt and the mother could still afford another Prada for xmas! *okayssss the prada was just to add spice. 

No one can really be super rich. And those special moment is the essence to get things going so you can really be super damn rich. Believe me. More often than not, special moments don't cost you too much. In fact, simplicity works best. 

Try it out. Go cross the calendar now. Show your darling that those depicts Dating Day/Couple Day/Darling Day...just name it. And just try, put down your work awhile, shoulder down and relax...and be yourself again. Enjoy the moment of happiness. Rejoice the moment of togetherness. 

It's worth it. Better than your pay-slip. *wink